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So have you felt let down, disappointed or surprised, even angry recently? And could it be possibly, due to someone doing something, or something not happening, quite the way you expected? Join the club. I feel myself fall in the Trap over and over again- having a goal, or seeing an outcome that suddenly veers of my course, and takes a turn I wasn't expecting.
As a yogi, I then try to teach myself to "just let it go" or "move on" from the situation. But I still feel empty, not fulfilled, even a little confused. And why? Because I had expectations which weren't met. The result isn't what I planned. Despite my strong, determined efforts, I just couldn't control it and something else happened. And boy, that feels, well out of control.
The question is can I avoid the hurt, the pain, the disappointment, before it happens? Why do I set myself up to fall back in the Trap?
Consider we are at the mercy of the Universe, or God, or Light, Buddha, or whatever you call your Higher Power. What would happen if we placed this desire, this expectation, with this Power, and did eventually release from an expected outcome? Even if a situation unfolds itself and stays awhile, and it doesn't align with your intentions, or desires, or goals, is it possible to sit back and reclaim your power in choosing not to suffer through the pain of not getting what you expected- in not reacting but responding when ready?
Whether you follow Buddhism or not, there is much to learn from what Buddha taught. For example, there are four Noble Truths of Buddhism I have learned which I share with you:
Suffering and dissatisfaction exist in life
Suffering arises from attachment to desires, such as control or set expectations
Suffering ceases when these attachments cease to exist
Freedom from suffering is possible by practicing the Eightfold Path
This liberation from suffering is what many people mean when they use the word “enlightenment."
I have decided to continue to have goals, plans, ideas. But this time I hope to remain in the present moment, taking what comes, and accepting it. I will choose to bathe in my own resilience, stepping aside to get out of my own way.
Ever since I can remember I have worn and loved jewelry. I have pictures of myself at four dripping in my mother’s long beads and clip on earrings. Then while making jewelry as an adult, I began to wonder about the beautiful beads I was using… stones and crystals found in the earth- the colors, the swirls- the weight, characteristics. For years I have remained curious and open to this concept and do believe in potential in wearing and using certain stones and crystals for added health benefits. But just like astrology, I take it as another tool in my toolbox, not someone to depend on entirely for major decision making, but to enhance my sense of well-being and with the world and nature which surround me. I hope my blogs may educate you and peak your interest, and if nothing else, inspire you, to pick stones which call to you. and to wear more of the jewelry you love.