Have you ever thought about this question?
Perhaps you think first of your childhood. Once out of the house, you enter adulthood, and have removed yourself from familial patterns and certain habits, developing your own as you go. But then we may find ourselves unconsciously perpetuating cycles from our childhoods learned from others, including our families.
For example, I know people who have fear of not having enough, not showing or receiving affection, and possibly keeping hidden secrets in themselves.
This realization is of course, not uncommon. It is important to reflect that there could be an endpoint at which negative family cycles that have thrived for generations are exhausted and can exert their influence no longer. Breaking any unwanted patterns or habits instilled in us from outside sources is possible. If we notice them, acknowledge them, and then choose to change, we can possibly overcome those values imprinted upon us long ago in order to replace them with pure love, tolerance, and conscious acceptance.
Also, as an adult, we change and move through our lives meeting new people and experiencing all kinds of relationships, events, jobs, and feelings that then paint over the previous childhood patterns. These mix and mingle in a dance until they unfold in our actions and behaviors, whether we know it or not. It is important to stop every once in a while and ask, “Why do I believe what I believe?” And is it harmful to my life experience? Is it necessary? Is it kind?
Whatever the answer, keep in mind that you have Choice. You are stronger than you know. And ultimately this is your one life to own your beliefs and experiences. Perhaps in breaking negative family cycles, you will discover that your ability to express your feelings and needs grows exponentially. Maybe as an adult, you will notice suddenly you are in a place that isn’t supportive, that isn’t a place to thrive and grow yourself, that isn’t a positive journey through this thing we call life.
Now is the time to embark upon a journey toward greater well-being that can positively impact generations to come.
Finally, in order to truly change, you must give yourself permission to change.
Blessings to you,
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